Is she a bad mom for allowing her daughter to stand up for herself or is violence not the answer?
Now is more important a time than any to raise our girls to become strong, independent women who can stand up for themselves. But what do you do when kids get into a fight that may not seem appropriate? Would you be okay with a harsh response from your daughter? One mom found out that her daughter slapped a boy after he grabbed her butt. The Original Poster (OP) took to the Reddit thread r/breakingmom to share her child's story instead of the "Am I the Asshole" thread. This mom has firmly confirmed that she isn't one. In fact, she's pretty proud of her daughter for standing up for herself because she's usually quite meek and quiet.
She elaborated: I wasn't present for this, but the story goes that my daughter was riding her scooter up and down the sidewalk while this boy, who is a known troublemaker, and some of his friends were walking by. He grabbed her butt. My girl proceeded to turn around and slap him. Like slap THE HELL out of him, enough to leave a hand print. He started crying, another mom on the street keeping an eye on them called his mom and me. I got my kids home and the boy's mom apologized to me and my daughter both and didn't seem upset that my daughter slapped her son. My daughter was a little shaken up, and I talked with her to confirm everything that happened as she first said, and she stuck with the same story she told before.
She noted that while violence is never the answer, but had a different take to it. She wrote: Now, I know in this day and age, most places have a zero-tolerance violence policy. If this had happened in school, she would almost certainly have been expelled for the remainder of the year. And maybe this is a controversial opinion, and maybe it makes me a shitty parent, but I think my daughter did the right thing. I've taught my kids that they are never to start physical altercations, but they can end them. Whether or not a slap on the behind warranted her reaction is up for debate, but I'm honestly proud of her. She's usually so meek and quiet and never stands up for herself, she has NEVER got in trouble for not keeping her hands to herself, not even as a toddler (except with her sister, but as someone who also has a sister, I don't consider that the same thing). So I know it really must've made her feel some type of way for her to retaliate. She was worried she was gonna be in trouble, but I have no intention to punish her. I didn't overly praise her for slapping him either. And I texted my husband (who's at work) what happened and he just sent a thumbs up and said "tell her daddy loves her and I'm not mad."The only thing that gets me is the boy is also 8 years old...so are we terrible people?
Surprisingly boy moms were quick to answer... positively! krbewiza wrote: If my boy ever grabbed a girl’s butt I hope she would slap him! My worst nightmare is raising boys who don’t learn consent!alli_lags affirmed: As a boy mom, I would be horrified to learn that my son was grabbing a girl’s butt (& at 8 years old!). I wouldn’t be mad if I was in your situation.Justanothergamerwife noted: I'm not usually an advocate for violence, but in this case it was the best reaction. girl012687 shared: You're not bad people. Sometimes despite our best efforts, our kids still do shitty things, because they're kids and they're immature. He's better off learning not to grab random girls' asses by getting slapped by a classmate at 8 years old than he is by getting tased by the wrong girl or arrested by the cops when he's 18 or 28. It sounds like his parents are handling it right so he learns rather than gets angry at the world. I wish I'd had the guts to slap the hell out of the boys who groped me when I wasn't that much older than your daughter.
The OP was surprised to hear such an overwhelmingly positive reaction. She said: Wowww, i'm in awe of all the support and love I got here! Thank you all so much. Any doubts I had are gone. <3 What do you'll think?
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